"Jewels has an inherently divine gift over and above human possibility because I have never been able to trust anyone in the way I have trusted her to help me heal my past."
Sinead, participant of year long course
". . . . I am so grateful I found the courage to come to EarthHeart, more so for the offering of grieving and to receive so much love, acceptance and to be seen via the collective creation you have so courageously, beautifully birthed into community. EarthHeart is a beautiful place, deeply held in the forest and was so so healing to walk into each morning before we began together.. . . . Laura
GRIEFWALKER (watch a 5 minute clip on grief)
“. . . The crucible of making human beings is death. Every culture that is worth a damn knows that. It is not success. It’s not growth. It’s not happiness. It’s death. That’s the cradle of your love of life, the fact that it ends. . . ”
“Grief is a feeling and a skill. And the twin of grief as a skill of life is the skill of being able to praise or love life which means wherever you find one authentically done, the other is very close at hand - grief and the praise of life, side by side.” Stephen Jenkinson
". . . . It was such an amazing and transformation experience for me, to have grieved collectively in the way we did, wow, a weekend I'll never forget. I feel I had something resembling a rebirth, feel so much lighter and softer and internally cleansed.. . . " Chris - university politics lecturer
Well of Grief
Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface of the well of grief
turning downward through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe
will never know the source from which
the secret water,
cold and clear, nor find in the darkness glimmering
the small round coins
thrown away by those who wished for something else.
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Threshold circles are weekend events held at the EarthHeart centre, either in the beautiful Celtic EarthLodge with it's fire hearth, the Forest temple or deep in the ancient woodland surrounding. They are held by 3 principles - nature, ceremony and circle. They are offered with each season of the year. Guided by the four elements of life and divine Love: Earth, Air, Fire and Water, they are for anyone who feels they are at a threshold in their life . . .
What is a Threshold ?
Thresholds are 'sacred gateways' that present themselves to us at points in our life when we are ready to step more fully into who we really are. They're offered by spirit by 'Love' to show us the way home, to a remembering of something we have forgotten or lost. You may be familiar with thresholds and know them also as crossroads, or the end of one cycle and the beginning of another. Also referred to as crisis points, transitions, edges, and choice point.
A threshold can be identified by moments or times in our lives when we feel the most stuck, with seemingly no way through a situation or experience, or our heart feels broken somehow. We might be feeling hopeless, despairing, wanting to give up and walk away, or fight to the death with our anger.
They can equally present themselves as an inner feeling of excitement, like a whisper of something that is calling us to say "YES" more deeply to our life and we just need that extra bit of courage and support to go for it.
'. . . . The breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you
Don't go back to sleep!
You must ask for what you really want.
Don't go back to sleep!
People are going back and forth
across the threshold where the two worlds touch,
The door is round and open
Don't go back to sleep! . . . '
You can bring anything to the circle from something deeply personal to something collective or global. It could be in relation to your personal life, work, your life purpose, the natural world, creativity, family, close relationships, or many other things. Perhaps you've a big decision to make and you're going around in circles in your head looking for 'the answer' but getting nowhere. Or perhaps there is somehting you need to say to say to someone but you are terrified to. Or maybe you are finding it challenging to be with your heart and all that you are feeling. It is these times that we are at a threshold and the truth of our essence is trying to show us the way back home to living more in our heart's wisdom, power, inner freedom and balance with all life.
There will also be another part of us that is in fear, of shining and living from our deepest love and aliveness. This part will do it's very best to convince us that stepping through the threshold is the worst idea. That part would almost rather die than face what is calling us. This part will put up great resistance to coming to the workshop.
How Threshold circles work
They are held by 4 gatewaysthat support the journey
Nature - Ceremony - Circle - Love
- Circle - By holding the form of a circle together we create a collective container of safety, positive regard and heart focused support - within which we can flow, unfold, explore, transform, let go, reclaim, empower, witness, be more than the sum of the parts.
- Nature - Held within the context of our natural world, deep in the forest, inspired and nurtured by her wildness and stillness, there to show us the way through her reflection. Supporting us to stay embodied and remind us of our interconnectedness.
- Ceremony - Calls forth The Sacred / The Mystery / Great Spirit. When we step into ceremony something bigger than us enters the field and helps us to find parts of ourselves otherwise hard to access. Ceremony acts as a bridge to the physical and not physical worlds. Reminding us we are more than our small human separate suffering self. That we are being of mystery Bringing creativity, beauty, heart and magic to the journey.
- Love - perhaps the most important aspect of all, for without love what is it really all about. For love is at the heart of our human experience and what all of our questing is about at the roots. To return to love. We long to be loved and accepted just for who we are, when this happens we flourish and blossom and can fully live our true essence. The practice of sitting in the field of love is a spiritual offering.
Thresholds are most potent to step through when supported by others. When we are witnessed within a circle of loving presence, held in a context of sacred ceremony and collective holding, something more than each of us is presenced and a larger field of love enters the space. It offers us an invitation to listen more deeply to what is being called forth is us.
As humans we are interconnected beings with all life and we are not designed to do these things alone, although we have been taught our whole lives that we should not ask for help and that if we do need help this is a sign of weakness.Thus creating shame about our healthy need of each other.
These threshold circles offer ways to:
- Transform something in your life that wants to change
- Let go of something in your life that no longer serves you
- Reclaim a part of yourself that has been lost or forgotten.
- Heal an aspect of yourself that feels hurt or broken.
- Find right relationship with your fears about what is happening in our world.
- Listen more deeply to an exited whisper that is calling you to step up.
- Speak your truth and make chnagwes that are needed
- Accept and love a part of yourself you judge as some how wrong, bad or shameful.
The power of the collective
These threshold circles offer space for everyone to come together as equals. Simply by our presence we gift whatever wants to happen in the collective field through just being in the circle. It makes no difference whether you are very familiar with circle work or totally new to it.
Each person has a place to offer and receive sacred gifts. You can travel at your own pace in your own time and be a part of the personal and collective transformation. Sometimes being witness to someone else's threshold is as healing and powerful as being witnessed stepping through one ourselves. This is the power of circle work.
During the workshop there will be times of deep stillness and times of energised aliveness. The weekends will include embodied practices to support the work and are held held within the map of the elements. We will also support the process with movement and breath work as well as time in nature to nourish and ground us.
You are welcome just as you are, in your broken heart, your confusion, despair, longing and excitement. You do not need to know the how, just bring it all and your openness to explore.
During the workshop there will be times of deep stillness and times of energised aliveness. The weekends will include embodied practices to support the work and are held held within the map of the elements. We will also support the process with movement and breath work as well as time in nature to nourish and ground us. You are welcome just as you are, in your broken heart, your confusion, despair, longing and excitement. You do not need to know the how, just bring it all and your openness to explore.
Threshold circles (new year immersion)
'Elemental nature immersion . . . '
14-20 Aug 2017 - at EarthHeart in the ancient Forest of Dean (nr the Wye valley)This is a week long, outdoor camping experience set in the middle of the beautiful 200 thousand acre ancient forest of Dean. It offers breathtaking wild nature away from the distractions of modern life.
The vision of the campTo fully immerse ourselves in the nature that surrounds us and the nature within us.
Nature, the elements (earth, air, fire and water) our senses and our bodies will all be our teacher. Held within the celtic wheel of life that honours earth based spirituality and offers an understanding of our sacred interconnectedness with all life physical and non physical.
EarthHeart sits within some of the most wild and ancient forest in the UK and offers by virtue easy access within us into it. The camp is about the alchemy of this total immersion into the nature around us and aligning this to our own inner wild nature so that we can come fully alive into life. The camp offers a temporary community enabling an exploration into what its like to live relationally while deeply embracing our own essence and living simply and close to the land in the way our ancestors lived on this very land for thousands of years.
At the centre of the camp is the hearth, a large communal fire that is always burning with simple seats in a circle around it. This is the heart of our container that supports us to keep coming back to the centre of our community and to our hearts. From here we can venture out into the wild forest and then return back home to the heart and hearth. This pulse of in and out is how our ancestors lived and is much needed again in western civilisation. It is what many of us are feeling the absence of in our lives that results in our feelings of isolation, fear, anxiety, loneliness and separation.
We will keep exploring together the ways of remembering this pulse and that it is still alive in our bones and cells. Of how to access sacred knowledge of living in harmony with all life that is available to all if we slow down enough to be able to hear the wisdom of nature and the elements and how they are trying to guide us back home to wholeness.
We live on the planet with nearly 7 billion people and as many varied forms of life so finding a way to be in relationship within our own personal journey is essential. We can't keep hiding away from the world due to overwhelm. We need to find the balance of time alone to come back into ourselves and put our roots ever deeper into the earth and time connect with humanity and the web of life. The camp offers a supportive context to explore the right balance of this for each of us and enable choice from a place of connection to life rather than from fear or overwhelm.>
Food and Practicals
There are two options for food. You can either:
1. Bring food ingredients with you (or joint shopping at the local farm and shops) and camp in a circle with others who also attend the camp (or your friends) and share taking turns to cook, prepare and wash up.
2. If you have a special diet for example allergies, you may prefer to bring your own food and cook for yourself
Guidelines for communal meals
We suggest as a default vegetarian or vegan and wheat free cooked meals and people are free to add their own additions to their plate if they choose. If you wish to bring meat to the camp it has to be organic and ideally locally sourced (again we have a local farm shop for this)
There is a basic outdoor camp kitchen for washing up and storing utensils (Please note - there is no fridge or mains electricity for food preparation or storage)
Children are of course welcome. There is no childcare provision offered by us so carers/parents will be asked to take full responsibility for the safety and childcare of their little one's.
Numbers are strictly limited so early booking is advised. Everyone is welcome no matter where you come from or who you are.
Please note: there are no tickets for work exchnage as we will all be working together to help the camp run smoothly as we go.
NATIVE AMERICAN CREED
The Earth is your mother, care for her
Honor all relations
Open your heart and soul to the great Spirit
All life is Sacred, treat all beings with respect
Take what is needed from the Earth and nothing more
Do what needs to be done for the good in others
Give constant thanks to the Great Spirit for each new day
Speak the truth, but only of the good in others
Follow the rhythms in nature, rise and retire with the sun
Enjoy life’s journey but leave no trace.
Grace, Grief & Gratitude
29 Dec - 2016 - 1 Jan 2017 - EarthHeart
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This Threshold circle is longer than the season Thresholds. It's offered over 4 days and is a transition of one year to the next.
It includes a ceremony on grief and a ceremony on gratitude.
If you are struggling at the moment to know how to be with everything that is going on in the world this workshop is designed for you. It offers a held space to be able to explore difficult feelings like hopelessness, powerlesness, despair and grief.
It also offers time to reflect on the year that has been, grieve and let go of anything that no longer serves us and give gratitude and thanks for what we received and welcome in our intentions for the year to come.
The focus of this Threshold is how to live from our deepest, wildest most potent love and truly say yes to life in all it's dimensions. We can only do this when we are willing to acknowledge our losses and compost what we no longer need.". . . . Grief and Gratitude are held within the larger field of Grace and are an equal and essential part of the journey of being human. . . . . "
REASONS FOR COMING . . . .
- Because you love life and hold precious those close to you and want to open your heart even more to them.
- Becasue you are not sure how to be with all the feelings that are in you in relation to what is happening in thew world.
- Because you love the natural world and want to do all you can to nurture and protect it.
- Because when you hear news about the environmental destruction, violence and poverty, you experience feelings of anger, sadness, powerlessness, despair, numbness or overwhelm.
- Because you have a thousand un-met needs from your past and it still hurts.
- Because someone important in your life has died or a significant relationship has ended.
- Because you'd like to have more meaning and purpose in your life.
- Because you feel numb to grief
- Because you are depressed or angry with life.
- Because you want to be more connected to your heart and you capacity for love to open you.
- Because you're navigating physical illness/disease with your body and your health and/or finding it hard to accept.
Whatever your reason (and there are many more that listed here above) you are welcome.
Grief and Loss. . . .
Acknowledging and embracing grief and loss in us is a powerful gateway to the deepest Love. Grief is a radical spiritual act that breaks our hearts open to Love and to the vast and beautiful landscape of gratitude, for we only grieve for what we love. It opens us to depths of love in ourselves in a way that few others things can. It carves love into our souls like water carves valleys into the mountains, it is a gift to all that are courageous enough to travel along her.
". . .We only grieve for what we love so wherever there is love there is grief and wherever their is grief there is love. . . " Frances Weller
Gratitude is the hearts language of love
The degree to which we are able to honour losses in us and allow our grief to be felt is equal to our ability to love, to truly open our hearts and be a weelspring of lifeforce.
Because gratitude and grief are in sacred union and cannot exist without each other we must embrace our grief if we want to live in Love.
Healthy grieving is not a dark, depressed, heavy experience of no hope and despair, it's a cathartic sacred gateway to love It reminds us that we are part of the web of life and that Love is at the centre of our experience.
Grieving is the missing component right now in the collective field of human evolution. We have for many decades lost touch with the value of grief and therefore lost touch with our authentic love and gratitude for life. We don't have to look very far to see the impact of this in our lives, communities and across the earth.
It is deeply needing to be embraced at this time, for the wellbeing of ourselves and also for the health of our communities and the entire planet. It is not about feeling grief to get rid of it. Rather, allowing it as a tender, vulnerable, wild and soul deepening gateway to connect to something that is life affirming and authentically positive, rather than a trying to be positive, driven by a hidden fear and panic that all might not be well.
Grief wants to flow in us, it does not need to be pushed. It is not that we don't have any grief, we all have a well of unexpressed grief within us that is waiting to be welcomed and without the flow of this grief, the capacity to experience love and really open to life has a limit.
It is an inevitable aspect of our human experience that we will lose things we love through our lifetime and grief is the natural and right response. But when loss comes we act surprised like there has been a mistake in the divine order of things. We have come far away from our connection to the natural cycles of death and rebirth. That loss is inevitable. It is not about preventing loss in order to truly find happiness but about how to be in relationship with loss that takes us to living from our deepest love moment to moment, here and now.
". . . . at this time on Earth it could be argued that to NOT be on our knees broken with immense feelings of grief is the true madness of humanity . . . . "
The freedom in grieving
Grief is not just the gentle tears that subtly role down our cheek from time to time with an apology. Nor is it only the depressed hopeless empty void of despair.
Grief is an alive, wild, cathartic rainbow of emotional expression that includes our anger, fear, despair, confusion and heart break in all of it's colours. It is not to be analysed or fixed but to be felt like the weather, held in sacred space.
No one can say that the way we grief is right or wrong. Each of us has our own way of it moving though us and the invitation from love is to feel it fully uncensored. It comes in waves like the ocean brings her waters to the shore and all we can do is surrender. If we try to fight with the waves we will exhaust ourselves and drown.
Societies rules . . .
The encouraged method in modern society to deal with grief is to numb out. We are offered a plethora of ways to do this from TV, drinking/drugs, shopping etc, the list is endless.
And we continue to go about our daily lives pretending to ourselves that all is well.
Due to decades of grief being suppressed it's become buried under a weight of shame and self judgment that it's weak and pointless. We fear if we open up to it we'll drown in a never-ending river of tears that takes us only into endless despair. We are like a damned up river that can no longer freely flow with life and instead sit slowly stagnating and dying.
". . . . In order to take action to protect and nurture life, grief is the first essential step, then our action comes from deep inside our love . . . . "
The gift of collective grief
So how do we open to the grief inside when it has been dammed up for so long ?
We need to grief in the company of others. This is counter to what we have been taught but the truth is that grief is most transformational when experience with others. It is not meant to be felt alone. When one person allows their grief to flow in the company of others they are not just gifting themselves, they also gifting the collective field. Some cultures are still in touch with this wisdom - at funerals, everyone wails and lament by the coffin allowing grief to be fully felt, seen, uncensored, without embarrassment. When we grieve this way something catalytic and transformational happens for all involved.
When we and our grief are held within a sacred collective context and we grieve until we are fully given, lament through our bodies, breath and heart a cleansing of the soul happens and a natural authentic joy enters our hearts. Not a superficial joy from denial or suppression but from a deep embrace of life.
Ancient indigenous teachings
A living example of this is the Dagara people of Africa, they understand this deeply. They give space to grief together in their village on a regular basis. Every month there will be a grief ritual in the village, all work stops and everyone comes, from the grandmothers to the youngest children and they purge their losses, feel their grief, witness each other, support each other and a YES to life is the outcome.
The workshop is offered specifically at this time of year, the season of winter, which in the cycle of life is the season of death/letting go. In this way nature will support our journey of grief and keep us connected to the web of life and our place in it. Over these 4 days we will walk the path of grief. Getting intimate with how it moves in us, including our tears, anger, fear and so on because grief has many ways of moving in us. We will be creating a ceremony inspired by the Dagara tradition and other traditions of our ancestors.
This work is informed by: Joanna Macy, Sobonfu Some, Frances Weller, Stephen Jenkinson, Stephen Levine.
Whoever you are and whatever you have lost or fear losing you are welcome to join us on this journey.
Still not sure ?
Read an article from 'The Guardian' newspaper on the subject of grief.
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Frances Weller's - Five gates of grief
We will be working with these gateways as our guide map for our journey with grief.
- The First Gate: Everything we love, we will lose
- The Second Gate: The places that have not known love
- The Third Gate: What we expected on arrival and did not receive
- The Fourth Gate: The sorrows of the world
- The Fifth Gate: Ancestral grief
if you would like to know more about these gateways you can listen to this audio by Frances Weller on you tube
DJ, Ecstatic dance and Sacred Ceremonialist
Jewels is available for hire as a DJ to alcohol and drug free events. She is a renowned Ecstatic dance creator and of Sacred ceremony. Her unique and eclectic collection of music can follow and enhance any crowd. She is known for her ability to 'get people dancing'. She also choreographs and leads Sacred ceremonies for special event such as betrothals, birthdays, weddings or any event that you would like to mark in a special way.
". . . for over 50 years lots of people have tried, very hard, to persuade me to enjoy dancing, they all failed. In a couple of hours Jewels has succeeded spectacularly . . . '" Jufdi – in Wales
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